I haven't posted a blog in a bit because I haven't really had something I wanted to write about. But the last couple of days I've seen a lot of articles in magazines/newspapers about relationships. Most focusing on moving in together/marriage. I understand that everyone is different and thus all relationships are different. But I have a hard time comprehending them. I'm a traditional person, if you hadn't guessed already. I personally believe in slow and steady, going out, no moving in together/no sex until marriage.
Moving in together without a solid commitment seems dangerous - if you break up (and especially when its a messy break-up) how do you decide who leaves/who gets what.
Sex before marriage, obviously you could get pregnant, I really don't like it when people say they just want to be good for when they do get married. If both parties waited until marriage then it shouldn't matter - neither of you knows what to expect and you can grow together, plus there is still a lot of stuff you haven't done - meaning you won't get bored (or at least as quickly).
I feel that in todays society with people doing so many things outside of marriage they have left nothing to make marriage special. Before marriage meant you combined your lives, you moved in together, you were able to get to a new level of intimacy. Now everything that was meant for marriage is attainable, I wonder why people get married at all.
Oh and the marriages that do happen, especially the ones we see on tv are just crazy. I feel like marriage has lost its entire meaning. People getting married get so wrapped up in the planning and the appearance of it. And the women seem to think its their day. Shouldn't the actual day be about the BOTH of you joining your lives?
I don't understand the relationships that are so typical in our society today. I just know I'm going to stick to my traditional values. I want my relationship to build slowly, the waiting for the next steps is exciting - I have an entire lifetime, why should I rush some of the best parts.
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